Comments on: Why Do We Have To Judge? http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/ everything about being a parent Tue, 29 Dec 2009 08:11:26 +0000 http://www.today.com/version-2.3.1 By: dancermom http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-168 dancermom Fri, 05 Jun 2009 16:39:33 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-168 I started my blog because I felt judged and alone in my parenting choices. I have written blogs on both cloth diapering and organics but it was not at all my intention to preach or judge. If they came across that way I apologize. I wrote both of those blogs to give ideas on how to save money. I certainly don't buy everything organic, just a few things and the rest I wash w/ lemon and vinegar and cloth diapering is just a lot more affordable. Unfortunately, no matter what your choices are, you are bound to feel judged. I have always made "different" choices in my life and I never came across so much judgment as I have since becoming a mom, from family members to people on the street. (I actually had some 20 something coffee shop employee make some rude comment about my baby being too big to be carried! Was this her business?) I definitely try not to judge because I would like that much respect back. I think most people (there are exceptions of course) try to make the best choices for their kids given the knowledge and means at their disposal. Regardless, if anyone has taken my blogs as judgmental I am sorry and sad because that was not at all my intention. I started my blog because I felt judged and alone in my parenting choices. I have written blogs on both cloth diapering and organics but it was not at all my intention to preach or judge. If they came across that way I apologize. I wrote both of those blogs to give ideas on how to save money. I certainly don’t buy everything organic, just a few things and the rest I wash w/ lemon and vinegar and cloth diapering is just a lot more affordable.
Unfortunately, no matter what your choices are, you are bound to feel judged. I have always made “different” choices in my life and I never came across so much judgment as I have since becoming a mom, from family members to people on the street. (I actually had some 20 something coffee shop employee make some rude comment about my baby being too big to be carried! Was this her business?) I definitely try not to judge because I would like that much respect back. I think most people (there are exceptions of course) try to make the best choices for their kids given the knowledge and means at their disposal.
Regardless, if anyone has taken my blogs as judgmental I am sorry and sad because that was not at all my intention.

]]> By: shannonf http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-145 shannonf Fri, 01 May 2009 23:24:30 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-145 ckcramer... you are doing a greatjob and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. And I guess I slipped on the non-judging and getting along thing because I actually wrote a rather long nasty comment on a breastfeeding blog.... I didnt mean to I just snapped when i saw a cartoon implying that my child was incapable of love and some kind of scary damaged goods. So I am positive I know what has upset you. So if anyone sees my tirade of a comment please forgive me I am tired and sick and no i am not normally a mean mommy (and I did edit out alot of the comment that was truly mean) I promise. ckcramer… you are doing a greatjob and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

And I guess I slipped on the non-judging and getting along thing because I actually wrote a rather long nasty comment on a breastfeeding blog…. I didnt mean to I just snapped when i saw a cartoon implying that my child was incapable of love and some kind of scary damaged goods. So I am positive I know what has upset you.

So if anyone sees my tirade of a comment please forgive me I am tired and sick and no i am not normally a mean mommy (and I did edit out alot of the comment that was truly mean) I promise.

]]> By: ckcramer http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-144 ckcramer Fri, 01 May 2009 13:20:43 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-144 Ha, I could be your love slave!! Ha, I could be your love slave!!

]]> By: daddy http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-143 daddy Fri, 01 May 2009 12:48:15 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-143 I agree that we all need to not judge others, only one person has the right to do that. I also know how hard it is sometime when you see something you don't agree with to want to call it wrong, without knowing all al facts and circumstances of the certain sitution. But in the end no one but the childs parents konw what is best for them and their children. Doctor, magazine, & books are all great sources of help & information, but you know your kids better than anyone & you have to make those desicions . As for the breastfeeding vs. formula, I was a formula baby and I turned out OK, I guess if I was breastfed maybe I would have turned to be ruler of the world & you would all be my peasants, but then I would not have met my wife and had our great children. Wait if I ruled the world I could have had my servants round her up for me. I agree that we all need to not judge others, only one person has the right to do that. I also know how hard it is sometime when you see something you don’t agree with to want to call it wrong, without knowing all al facts and circumstances of the certain sitution. But in the end no one but the childs parents konw what is best for them and their children. Doctor, magazine, & books are all great sources of help & information, but you know your kids better than anyone & you have to make those desicions . As for the breastfeeding vs. formula, I was a formula baby and I turned out OK, I guess if I was breastfed maybe I would have turned to be ruler of the world & you would all be my peasants, but then I would not have met my wife and had our great children. Wait if I ruled the world I could have had my servants round her up for me.

]]> By: ckcramer http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-142 ckcramer Fri, 01 May 2009 11:40:29 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-142 It is sad that everyone tries their absolute best at doing everything they can possibly do, and still there are people out there who are going to criticize. I would just like to say that society has not brain washed me, thus the reason I was able to speak up about this issue. I would say the people brain washed are the one's who are so set in their ways and thinking that they are unable to see reality and reality effects everyone differently. You cannot change a genetic condition, not everyone can financially give up work to stay home, not everyone has the time to make their own baby food. We do our best and we don't need some high and mighty, gotta always be right, sarcastic and demeaning individual preaching to us about what is best for our children. Mother is always right, and as far as I know, I am the mother to my children. Apparently I must be doing something right because my almost 3 year old just topped the charts on his Parents as Teachers screener. And my formula fed 9 month old is also on the top of the charts for meeting his developmental milestones. So there!!!! It is sad that everyone tries their absolute best at doing everything they can possibly do, and still there are people out there who are going to criticize. I would just like to say that society has not brain washed me, thus the reason I was able to speak up about this issue. I would say the people brain washed are the one’s who are so set in their ways and thinking that they are unable to see reality and reality effects everyone differently. You cannot change a genetic condition, not everyone can financially give up work to stay home, not everyone has the time to make their own baby food. We do our best and we don’t need some high and mighty, gotta always be right, sarcastic and demeaning individual preaching to us about what is best for our children. Mother is always right, and as far as I know, I am the mother to my children. Apparently I must be doing something right because my almost 3 year old just topped the charts on his Parents as Teachers screener. And my formula fed 9 month old is also on the top of the charts for meeting his developmental milestones. So there!!!!

]]> By: shannonf http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-141 shannonf Fri, 01 May 2009 05:49:11 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-141 I certainly couldnt agree more and am pretty sure I know what you a referring to as it is probably what I just read through and got a little teed of at.... I actually wrote a rather long comment then stopped myself from submitting and thought why bother I certainly couldnt agree more and am pretty sure I know what you a referring to as it is probably what I just read through and got a little teed of at…. I actually wrote a rather long comment then stopped myself from submitting and thought why bother

]]> By: quadmama http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-140 quadmama Thu, 30 Apr 2009 23:17:39 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-140 Yeah, you know I try really hard to make sure I'm not coming across as preachy. What works for me may not work for you. I'm all for sharing my opinions and the chaos/hilariousness that ensues as I navigate mommyhood. I'm pretty sure based on a comment you made on one of my blogs about a personal struggle you had that I know which blog this post is aimed at... or I could be wrong. Either way, thanks for speaking up. As moms we'll all get through this a lot easier if we learn to get along. Yeah, you know I try really hard to make sure I’m not coming across as preachy. What works for me may not work for you. I’m all for sharing my opinions and the chaos/hilariousness that ensues as I navigate mommyhood. I’m pretty sure based on a comment you made on one of my blogs about a personal struggle you had that I know which blog this post is aimed at… or I could be wrong. Either way, thanks for speaking up. As moms we’ll all get through this a lot easier if we learn to get along.

]]> By: ckcramer http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-139 ckcramer Thu, 30 Apr 2009 20:47:16 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-139 Thanks!! Thanks!!

]]> By: lindsaym http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-138 lindsaym Thu, 30 Apr 2009 20:39:15 +0000 http://raisegoodkids.today.com/2009/04/30/why-do-we-have-to-judge/#comment-138 Woo! Amen, sista! Woo! Amen, sista!

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