raisegoodkids

First of all, sorry that I’ve been away for a little bit. I’ve been focusing most of my writing attention on a short story contest and submitting other paid articles. Money is tight these days and I’m trying to contribute as much as possible.

 FYI - The dinosaurs are still roaming the area. We went fishing this past weekend and guess what we caught, that’s right, Dinosaur Fish!! Again, I had no idea that these things even existed anymore. The toys are still active in their daily revolt against order and cleanliness. No improvement on that front. Darn, I was really hoping that my sticker reward chart would work with Spiderman and The Guy!

 Now, back to my title: Why Do We Have To Judge?

Most of the blogs that I read have to do with family and parenting, but I also read some current events blogs and some celebrity and religion blogs. The authors of most of the family and parenting blogs are women - mothers. I cannot understand why some of these role models continue to write such judgemental and sometimes ridiculous articles. I have a hard time reading them with a straight face and without rolling my eyes at some of the comments made.

Instead of constantly judging other parents and telling them that what they are doing is wrong, maybe we should use this outlet as a support network. I have met several very friendly fellow bloggers that share some of the same hardships that I do. We share ideas and stories, it is fun. However, some other bloggers use this outlet to proclaim what fantastic parents they are. They proclaim that their way is the only right way to do things. They proclaim that if you dare to do something out of the ordinary it will have detrimental effects on your children. They will knock anyone down that they do not believe is doing the “right thing”. Well, the “right thing” for one person isn’t always the “right thing” for others. The only thing that should matter is, in the situations they are faced with, are they doing the “right thing” for their children? I have read and heard stories from mothers on both sides of the working mom vs. stay at home mom debate, on breast feeding vs. bottle feeding, on cloth diapers vs. disposable diapers, organic vs. non-organic. Can’t we all just get along? Stop judging and start just being there for the people we share a huge common ground with - Motherhood.

Now, I’m all for expressing opinions. Anyone who knows me, knows that I can have some pretty strong opinions about things. Maybe when expressing our opinions, we could at least acknowledge that there could be some very good reasons for people to chose to do things a little bit different and that is really okay. Or rather than placing so much judgement in our writing, we could simply state that this is the way we do it and list some reasons why we chose to do it this way.

No one likes being judged, not by friends or family, not by strangers. Something to think about.