Feb 16 2009
Build Your Child’s Self-Esteem
A child’s self-esteem begins to develop around 2 years of age when he becomes aware of right and wrong and how things should be done. By preschool, he will show satisfaction when he does something good, but he will also show shame or disappointment when he does something wrong.
A parenting style which sets firm limits, but is also accepting, supporting, and respectful of a child’s individuality leads to the highest self-esteem. Firm limits are important to set realistic goals and social comparisons. A willingness to reason with your child allows him to explore his point of view and parental support enhances his sense of importance.
Here are some ways to help build your child’s self-esteem:
1.) avoid labeling as “good” or “bad”
2.) treat him as an individual and avoid comparing with others
3.) give your child encouragement for all of his efforts
4.) give him responsibility that is appropriate for his age
5.) provide examples of self-respect
6.) talk to your child and show a genuine interest in what he is doing
7.) praise your child for trying new things even if your child was not successful; encourage risk-taking
8.) allow your child to speak for himself
9.) avoid criticizing your child’s mistakes
10.) don’t rush your child
Also, don’t forget to teach your child the skills he will need to solve his own problems. You can help your child find solutions to a problem by asking him how he thinks he could solve the problem. If your child is having a hard time coming up with a solution, you could suggest two or three possibilities and then allow him to choose one. The best solution to a problem is one that actually solves the problem, but is also the one that makes your child feel good about himself.
